Cuckold in Rome: swingers clubs, spas and finding a bull

Rome is huge, and for couples curious about the cuckold lifestyle in Rome the first challenge is usually just getting your bearings: where the clubs are, which ones suit beginners, and how to meet a decent bull without wasting time. This guide pulls together what we know from the venues in our directory, the ways to meet like-minded people on BullWife and some practical advice for a first date. Single women and bulls who want to do things properly will find it useful too.

The Rome scene, from the centre to the ring road

Distance matters in Rome. Between the historic centre, the sprawling neighbourhoods and the Grande Raccordo Anulare ring road, crossing the city can take longer than leaving it, and that shows in where the couple-friendly venues are.

The centre has only a few clubs, and they are small: one a stone's throw from the Spanish Steps, one in Testaccio. The bigger venues are in the north, north-east, north-west and south of the city, often out towards the ring road, where there is room for pools, gardens and on-site parking. Rome also has its own tradition of adult spas and thermal-style venues that open during the day, on via Nomentana, in the south of the city and out towards Ostia. Beyond the city limits, two clubs make for a weekend outing: one on the Via Aurelia near Ladispoli and one in Ardea.

The directory also lists saunas and clubs aimed at a gay audience. You can see them all on the Rome venues page.

Swingers clubs and spas for couples in Rome

In the historic centre

Caveau, near the Spanish Steps, is a small, carefully styled club designed mainly for couples: single men are admitted only in very small numbers and entry is at the management's discretion. Evenings feature a buffet, cocktails and dance music, and guests describe attentive staff from the moment they book. Get in touch first and dress smartly. Bad Romance, in Testaccio, is a small swingers club open every night from 10:30 pm that bills itself as an international lounge. Opinions are sharply divided, mostly about the limited space, so ask beforehand how many people are expected.

North and north-east Rome

La Chance, in the north of the city, is a mid-sized club of about 450 air-conditioned square metres with a bar, a dance area, a cinema corner and a couples' room; its only review calls it elegant and clean. Invidia Club, on via Gaetano Capocci in the north-east, has no reviews yet, so ask the club directly who its nights are open to and how entry works.

The big venues near the ring road

New Luna, on the northern outskirts a few kilometres from the ring road, is spread over three floors with a garden, a pool and plenty of on-site parking. It is aimed mainly at couples, and one couple appreciated the constant presence of security staff. Weekends bring the most couples; if privacy matters to you, ask staff which rooms are more secluded. Il Mondo di Atlantis, on the north-western outskirts and running for over twenty years, combines a club, spa, restaurant and pool. One couple on their first visit suggests arriving in the afternoon, spending a few hours by the pool, having dinner and then moving into the club. Reviews warn that some nights draw a lot of single men; if anyone gets pushy, go straight to the staff.

Spas and thermal venues for couples

Eden, in the south of the city, alternates clothing-free thermal afternoons every day with club nights on Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Couples arrive and stay together for the whole visit, and smart dress is expected in the evening; for a first taste, the afternoon spa is the calmest option. One Deluxe, on via Nomentana, is a naturist spa with play areas, open Thursday to Sunday, mostly during the day, with Friday evening reserved for couples. Bathrobe, towel and slippers are included, and first-timers say they could start slowly at the buffet with no pressure.

Afternoons, and out towards the sea

Paprika is a small daytime club with a very discreet entrance, so check how to find it before you go. If you prefer afternoons to late nights, it is a lower-pressure way to start. In Casal Palocco, near Ostia, Olimpo Therme is a small naturist wellness centre open every day from the afternoon. Sunday is said to be the day with the most couples, but reviews since the change of management are mixed, so a short first visit is a good way to judge for yourselves.

Further out: Ladispoli and Ardea

Olimpo Club, on the Via Aurelia near Ladispoli, about half an hour from Rome, is a large complex with a disco, restaurant and pool, plus themed events at weekends. Several couples on their first visit to a club speak well of it, and one says staff showed them round the whole venue, so ask when you arrive. In Ardea, Venereblu is a smaller club with a summer pool, open Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Saturday dinner must be booked, and the discreet entrance looks like a private house from outside.

Opening times, nights and entry rules change often, and some venues require a membership card. Always check with the venue before you go.

How to find a bull or a couple in Rome

Many couples would rather get to know someone before setting foot in a club. Online you can take your time, talk about limits and decide together whether and when to meet.

• The Rome personals bring together the city's public profiles; you can view only bulls in Rome, couples in Rome or women in Rome.
• Explore lets you filter profiles to find people looking for the same things you are.
• The Map shows who is nearby. In Rome, where a date on the other side of the ring road can mean an hour in traffic, that really helps.
• Last minute is for spur-of-the-moment plans.
• Visiting Rome, or planning a weekend by the sea? Post it in advance on Trips.

An honest profile with good photos and clearly written rules attracts the right people and puts off the wrong ones.

Your first meet in Rome

The first time, keep it to a drink or a coffee somewhere public and busy. A lively bar in Prati, Monti or Trastevere is ideal, and it leaves everyone free to say goodbye after half an hour if the spark is not there. A few ground rules:

• pick a busy public place for the first date;
• set your rules in advance, as a couple, and share them with the person you meet, including your safe word;
• arrive and leave independently: metro, taxi or your own car, so nobody depends on anyone else;
• consent can be withdrawn at any time, even at the last minute, with no explanation needed.

Read more in our first meeting safety guide and in the guide to messages and requests, which helps you get those first conversations right.

Sexual health

With more than one partner, regular STI testing and condoms are the baseline. Many infections cause few or no symptoms; the Italian National Institute of Health (ISS) explains how they spread, how they are diagnosed and how to prevent them on its STI page (in Italian).

In Rome, the Plus Roma Checkpoint is a community-based service offering free, anonymous rapid tests for HIV, syphilis and other STIs, by booking. For questions, the ISS also runs a free, anonymous AIDS and STI helpline (800 861 061), presented on the Uniti contro l'AIDS website, with staff who can also answer in English.

FAQ

Are there swingers clubs for cuckold couples in Rome?

Yes. The directory lists clubs for couples both in the city, from the historic centre to the outskirts, and further out in Ladispoli and Ardea. Some, like Caveau, are designed mainly for couples.

How do I find a bull in Rome?

Start with the bull personals for Rome and with Explore, be clear about what you want and where your limits are, and exchange a few messages before meeting.

Which venue is best for a first visit?

That depends on you. If you like water and a slower pace, try an afternoon spa such as One Deluxe or Eden's thermal afternoons; if you prefer somewhere intimate, look at Caveau. Either way, contact the venue first.

Are there venues with a pool?

Yes, including New Luna, Il Mondo di Atlantis, Olimpo Club and Venereblu, with outdoor areas used mostly in summer.

Keep reading

If you are still working out what you want, read what cuckold means, what a hotwife is and what a bull is. For handling the emotions, there is jealousy and compersion, and if swapping appeals to you as well, see the couple swapping guide.

Every venue in the capital is on the Rome venues page. If you do not have a profile yet, the guide on how to sign up explains everything step by step.

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